Those who seek happiness by avoiding discomfort, meet dissatisfaction along the way.
Meaningful discomfort is part of happiness.
- Too many options. Keeping all our options open blocks meaningful commitment.
- Too many easy commitments. The path to satisfaction is going in fewer directions with greater energy.
- Too much self-protection. Commitments feel dangerous. But the real danger is never making them.
- Too many exceptions. An exception is an expensive lie. Being late to meetings and lack of follow-through begin with ‘next time’ thinking. Eventually easy exceptions become destructive habits.
3 power questions to lead others to a happy new year:
#1. What can you pour yourself into? Invite them to pour themselves into something meaningful. Gusto is cousin to happiness. Dabblers become unhappy complainers. A halfhearted life produces full unhappiness.
Apathy never makes you happy.
#2. How might you stretch yourself? Encourage them to rise to new challenges. The path to happiness often includes discomfort.
Ease produces temporary happiness and long-term boredom.
#3. What can you commit to do? Challenge them to make commitments. (Accept small commitments at the beginning. No one proposes on the first date.)
A commitment is a decision made once.
4 benefits of a meaningful commitment:
- Freedom to take action.
- Courage to act, even if others don’t.
- Energy to keep going when others quit.
- Clarity to eliminate distractions and focus on what matters.
If you want to lead others into a happy new year, lead them into meaningful discomfort and support them along the way.
How might leaders lead others into a happy new year?